How to See More Deeply into Your Spouse’s Heart


Picture yourself in an antique store.

You’re standing before an old chair, its wood dinged up and the varnish dirty and worn. At first, you have trouble seeing past the grime and scratches to appreciate its craftsmanship.

But what if, just as you turn to leave the store, you discovered the chair belonged to Abraham Lincoln? Suddenly, instead of a banged up old relic, you’re looking at a piece of history.

What happened? The chair didn’t change.

Five Ways Singles Can Honor Marriage (Guest Post)

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As a single person, sometimes I look around and wonder what happened to marriage.

In my Millennial demographic, it seems like more people are choosing to live together or hookup with someone on Tinder than choosing to tie the knot.

The studies show that there’s a growing pool of young single adults who seem to have little drive to marry. A recent Pew Research study  found that most Millennials won’t marry until at least age 27, and 25 percent will never marry at all.

Simple Ways to Help Your Husband Feel Loved


I know my wife loves me.

She tells me so every day, but she also brings me coffee.

I usually start each day with some quiet time for devotions and to look over work for the day ahead. Many days Jean will bring me a nice hot cup of joe. It’s her way of saying, “I love you.”

I should say, it’s my way of hearing, “I love you.”

In the same way our personality has us hardwired to be introverted or extroverted, we all feel love in specific ways.

The Empty Nest Marriage: What Will You Do When the Kids Leave?

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The empty nest years can sneak up on a marriage.

I shared my thoughts about this in a post a few weeks ago:

“Well-meaning moms and dads spend so many years completely devoted to the task of raising their children that they often forget to be husband and wife. It’s a situation that may be manageable while the kids are still at home and there’s enough work to ‘float’ the relationship along – but it can become unbearable after the kids move out.

Gary Chapman’s Practical Marriage Advice


Here in Colorado, you can tell that winter is right around the corner. The days are getting cooler, and you can feel it in your bones: that first arctic blast isn’t too far off.

The end of summer has me already longing for spring because once the cold, snow, and ice set in around here, they seem to last forever.

It’s no fun being stuck in winter.

That icy chill is even worse to be stuck in when it describes your marriage.

How to Make Your Marriage a Joyful Journey

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What do you use to hold your marriage together?

Super Glue?

I may as well suggest duct tape, right? According to the late Dr. Adrian Rogers, God Himself uses Super Glue.

Well, sort of.

Dr. Rogers draws from Genesis 2:24, “Therefore a man shall leave his father and his mother and hold fast to his wife, and they shall become one flesh” (ESV).

The original Greek translated into “hold fast” (“cleave” in the KJV) means “to weld or to glue.”

Commitment, not love, is the foundation of every successful marriage.

Dr. Tony Evans’ Tips for a Better Marriage

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There’s a war waging over your marriage … and a lot of days you probably don’t even recognize it.

The epic war movie “Saving Private Ryan” opens with one of the most riveting battle scenes in film history. It depicts in graphic detail the D-Day invasion of Omaha Beach in Normandy, France, on June 6, 1944. It’s a vivid reminder of the tremendous sacrifice asked of our soldiers and their heroic bravery.

But I think it also illustrates the intensity of the spiritual battle that’s waging for your marriage and mine.

Five Ways to Improve Bedtime with Your Spouse

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If you’re married, chances are you’ve encountered some challenges when it comes to sleeping together – and I don’t mean that kind of “sleeping together.” I mean getting some actual shut-eye.

Who can sleep through loud snoring, after all?

Or perhaps you’re married to someone who can’t stay still – there’s tossing, turning, and even “stealing” the blanket.

What about those couples who have mismatched sleep patterns or preferences – the night-owl who marries the early-bird?

Why Budgets Don’t Work and Why You Should Make One Today

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Conflict over finances can be hard on a marriage. In fact, research shows that couples who argue about money are nearly twice as likely to divorce as those who don’t.

The answer to that dilemma should be easy then, right? Just manage your finances better.

But a lot of couples are surprised to learn that poor money habits are only one part of their trouble. The other part is usually the marriage itself.

Money puts stress on fractures that already exist in a marriage.

A Recipe for a Happy Marriage

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Lorain had a passion for helping couples thrive in their marriages.

For 52 years, she crisscrossed the state of Oklahoma with her husband, Homer, as he preached from church to church. Along the way she came up with a succinct formula for marital happiness. Here’s her recipe for a happy marriage:

1 cup consideration
1 cup courtesy
2 cups praise
2 cups flattery carefully concealed
2 cups milk of human kindness
1 gallon faith in God and each other
1 small pinch of in-laws
1 reasonable budget
1 cup contentment
A generous dash cooperation
2 children (at least)
1 cup confidence and encouragement (for each)
1 large or several small hobbies
1 cup blindness to the other’s faults

Flavor with frequent portions of recreation and a dash of happy memories.