The Waitress and the Hoax

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You may have heard the story of the homosexual New Jersey waitress who claimed some customers left her a hateful note instead of a tip.

It turns out her story appears to have been a hoax.

Since news media picked up on waitress Dayna Morales’ Facebook picture of a note that read, “I’m sorry but I cannot tip because I do not agree with your lifestyle,” the accused family has come forward refuting Morales’ story.

They say the receipt on which the note was scribbled on was theirs – but that they never included such a message. As proof, they’ve shared their version of the receipt which includes an $18 tip and nothing more. A credit card statement verifies the inclusion of the tip.

What a good reminder to use discernment when reading news accounts like these. What at first blush may seem as fact sometimes turns out to be untrue. I can relate. I’ve been a victim of people running wild with speculation and false accusations. We have to be careful when it comes to discerning fact from fiction, especially in this new age of digital media.

In this instance, I’m glad the original story wasn’t true.

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Eugene Rossi More than 1 year ago

--@Alice

I'm not sure if you understand the point I was trying to make. I am not agreeing with conservative christian views that condemn homosexuality, but merely demonstrating the immense power of religion to drive people to do things that you and I believe is unkind, such as the hypothetical scenario of a christian writing a mean note to a homosexual.  Not to mention the fact that regardless of what you or I want to believe about God, the bible, or what should be the standard for sexual morality, belief in views does not prove they are true- they remain based on a type of faith- personally it was this and other concerns such as the seemingly impossible coexistence of free will and God's sovereignty that led me to give up religion altogether. Is kindness truly determined by the recipient? Sometimes but not always.

As one who was brought up in a strict Biblical home and later left christianity, I can say that it took years to get past many fears and uncertainties I had. Many christians, particularly pentecostals, are warned about false teachers and "strong delusion" (2 Thessalonians 2) that will come.  They are warned that not everyone who says they are saved actually is (Matthew 7, Luke 13:21-27). Generally, their views on creation and human nature lead them to reject homosexuality. Like I said, a person's worldview will influence their preceptions of reality and subsequent behaviors. I was intrigued by pluralist John Hick's philosophy of the blind people feeling an elephant - blindfolded individuals grasping to understand  the ultimate reality. While I don't agree with the stance many christians take on these issues, I can understand part of the reason many  take such stances.

Alice Alice More than 1 year ago

--@Jadis87, I'm a woman from the South and so I know how words like "bless your heart" can be spoken softly but be unkind nonetheless. Christians often do the same thing with the words "I'll pray for you." If you are working to make or keep it against the law for homosexual persons to have families or be wed then you are being unkind. If you are upset because bakers get flak for telling homosexuals to take their business elsewhere, and then get upset when they do, then you are being unkind. Kindness or unkindness is judged by the recipient. If you don't believe in gay marriage then don't have one. But if you are doing things that make life difficult for gay people then you are an unkind person.

And don't go telling me that you are trying to save their souls. We all know that salvation is by grace not works. A gay Christian is just as saved as a heterosexual Christian.

Eugene Rossi More than 1 year ago

--True. But not everyone has the same definition of kind and generous, nor does everyone have the same definition of what it means to be a true Christian and put that Christianity into action. If you do a google search on "false Christianity" or type in the name of any well known pastor and type "false teacher" after the name, hundreds of websites will appear telling you why a pastor or Christian teaching is "false".

I was raised in a pentecostal church, and I could speak at length about their beliefs on homosexuality. The bottom line is that

A. Everyone has a worldview that is based on a type of faith

B. A person's worldview will influence most major decisions they make, including the decision to treat homosexuals a certain way.

It is generally factor B that is of most concern because it is where others are affected. Let's hypothetically say that a Christian did leave a hateful note to the lesbian waitress. The majority of thinking people, both atheist and christian alike will be able to see the moral bankruptcy of any worldview that permits such behavior. But to the Christian who theoretically wrote the note, he or she sees the act as both kind and generous because they feel they are doing a "good deed" by giving the waitress fair warning to stop sinful behavior. Moreover, they would feel a greater comittment to God and equal terror of him that would cause them to rationalize this type of behavior- in a sense starting with the conclusion and working backwards to justify it.

Now I firmly believe that most conservative Christians such as those who comment here would never do anything like that and would instead treat people with respect despite disagreeing with them. I simply used this hypothetical scenario to illustrate why in rare instances these things happen.

Alice Alice More than 1 year ago

--Here's the thing, people don't just believe anything that you tell them. They take in anything that is consistent with what they already know or believe and reject everything that counters their beliefs. People readily believed this story because they had heard of other cases that turned out to be true. And the idea that Christians would act in an unkind way to homosexuals, that's pretty consistent with the way Christians are seen to behave.

The real thing to ask is How did we go from being seen as kind and generous people to unkind and ungenerous?