Learning to Love Your Spouse Well

It’s often easier to tell your spouse, “I love you,” than to show them through your actions.

I can tell you that’s true not only from personal experience but from the sheer number of questions we get here at Focus on the Family from married couples about navigating busy schedules, financial issues, and communication and conflict. Each question represents a small everyday moment that somehow turned into a disruption to the couple’s marital unity.

Authors Matt and Lisa Jacobson are with me on Focus on the Family with Jim Daly to encourage husbands and wives to serve and love each other well.

Matt and Lisa say few things are better for your marriage than growing in your faith, regardless of whether or not your spouse chooses to join you. The secret to contentment in marriage is believing and behaving according to God’s truth about your spouse, including:

Who they are as a person.
Their intellect.
Their personality.
Their physical appearance.
The fact that they came from God.

Matt and Lisa Jacobson will help you equip yourself with God’s Word and learn how to love your spouse well. Hear our full conversation on your local radio station, online, on Spotify, Apple Podcasts, or take us with you on our free phone app.

While you’re online, why not take a few moments to try our free Marriage Assessment online tool? It will help you quickly determine what’s working well in your relationship and identify areas where you may need some improvement.

If your marriage is struggling, we have caring Christian counselors on staff, and it would be their privilege to offer you a free consultation. Call us, leave your name and number, and they’ll get back with you just as soon as possible. The number during business hours is 1-800-A-FAMILY (232-6459).

If you’re on the brink of divorce, our Hope Restored marriage intensives can go a long way toward facilitating healing between you and your spouse and restoring your relationship. The number for Hope Restored is 1-866-875-2915, or click here. The intensives take place in five locations:

Branson, Missouri
Greenville, Michigan
The WinShape Retreat Center in Rome, Georgia
Cave Creek, Arizona
Wimberley, Texas

Lisa is an author, a speaker, and the founder and host of Club31Women.com, an online community of Christian women authors. Matt is the teaching elder and pastor of Cline Falls Bible Fellowship, and founder of FaithfulMan.com, a social media community focusing on family teaching.

Together, they’ve written two books that go hand in hand to help with your married life, called Loving Your Wife Well and Loving Your Husband Well. They are available for a gift of any amount. We’ll send them out to you as a way of saying thank you for partnering with us to strengthen families with the resources they need. For more information, click here.