God values listening.
James 1:19 says, “Know this, my beloved brothers: let every person be quick to hear [and] slow to speak.” At the heart of that wisdom is listening well. Effective listening deepens a relationship by:
• Intimately connecting the person listening with the person talking, and vice versa.
• Creating safety within which partners can be vulnerable without fear of judgment, correction, or rejection.
• Fostering the mutual respect necessary for long-term stability.
• De-escalating conflict.
The problem is many of us spend a lot of time sharing our thoughts, our opinions, our stories – that is, talking or waiting for our turn to speak instead of truly hearing one another. We are more distracted than ever, bombarded by stimulation from every direction all day. As a result, we’re losing ourability to be fully present and attentive to each other.











Jim Daly is a husband, father and President of Focus on the Family and host of its National Radio Hall of Fame broadcast. His blog, Daly Focus, is full of timely commentary and wisdom designed to help you navigate and understand today’s culture. His latest book is Marriage Done Right.