I promised to share an update with you regarding “the talk” I had with my son Trent over the weekend. Thanks to all of you who offered counsel and prayed for us. It was greatly appreciated!
In short, the conversation went very well. I decided to organize it into three sections:
- God’s design for marriage
- God’s design for human sexuality
- The practical application of sections 1 and 2.
I was extremely pleased with how well and warmly Trent received and connected with the discussion about God’s view of marriage and sexuality. In fact, there was a quick and deep response to many of the high points, mainly that God intends marriage to be permanent and between just one man and one woman.
“If you believe in God and love Him,” Trent said, “why wouldn’t you want to follow God’s design for you?”
Don’t you just love and appreciate the profound perspective that clean and uncluttered minds bring to such significant issues – matters that as a culture just can’t seem to get right?
We then turned the corner and began to discuss the mechanics of sex and how things physically work between a man and a woman. Trent has a scientific mind, and I could see the wheels turning. I talked about how in nature seeds are sown and give root to new life. I then took the analogy a little further to animals and finally, to people.
As I made my way through it, Trent remained somewhat stoic. I could tell that he was taking it all in and processing the information. For awhile he didn’t say a word. Finally, he offered his assessment:
“That is weird,” he said. “That is really weird!”
He repeated that phrase several times.
I have to admit that I’m relieved to have passed this milestone and know the experience with Troy will be different if for no other reason than Troy has a different temperament than his older brother.
But I thank the Lord that I have sons to love and to raise and talk with about God’s perfect plan – for a world full of imperfect people.