The Good, the Bad, and the Holy of Purity Culture

The culture has lost its way regarding sex.

That’s always been true, but it’s more and more evident every day. The devil twists words and ideas until good things become bad things, and bad things become good things – so much so that talk of purity gets distorted or, worse, weaponized.

On Focus on the Family with Jim Daly, I’m having a conversation with author Dannah Gresh about biblical truth that will bring clarity to God’s view of sex and thereby empower young women to live with sexual integrity while healing wounds caused by sexual brokenness.

According to Scripture, one of the reasons physical intimacy is important is because it showcases the love of God. Jesus told a parable using sex as a metaphor to explain the kingdom of heaven.In the story, a man and the father of his future wife came to an agreement about marriage. Afterward, the man immediately went away to build a home in which he and his bride would live. At the same time, the young woman waited in anticipation of his return by remaining pure and keeping an oil lamp burning. When the groom completed their home, he returned, and if the oil lamp was burning, the family would rejoice, the couple would consummate their relationship, and the community would enjoy a week-long wedding celebration.

Sex is designed to bring physical unity to a committed couple striving for relational and spiritual unity. Women are designed for this kind of intimacy. The female brain releases a powerful bonding chemical during meaningful physical touch – not only sex, but physical affection like hugs and cuddling as well. It’s like emotional glue that makes a woman feel deeply connected to the person. Properly expressed, sexuality highlights intimacy we’re meant to have with Jesus. Outside of commitment, however, the gift of sexuality can become confusing instead.

My conversation with Dannah covers a wide range of topics, including:

• The good and bad of purity culture.

• Overcoming the shame of pre-marital sex.

• Why marriage and sex reflect God’s love.

• Refuting cultural lies about sex.

• How to reflect Jesus in your sexuality and develop wisdom in your relationships.

• How to treat yourself with dignity and respect.

• Healthy communication in relationships.

• Receiving relational support through family and discipleship.

This program isn’t graphic, but it’s probably not suitable for younger children, so please use your discretion and occupy your kids elsewhere, or listen later on your local radio station, online, on Apple Podcasts, or on our free phone app.

If you would like someone to talk to about your struggles with purity, we have caring, Christian counselors who will listen, pray with you, and get you on a path toward healing and hope.They’ll also direct you to additional resources in your area if necessary. Call us, leave your name and number, and we’ll get back with you as soon as possible. The number during business hours is 1-800-A-FAMILY (232-6459).

Before I close, I’d like to extend an invitation for you to become a special partner with us through our monthly “Friends of Focus on the Family” program. When you do, I’ll send you a copy of Danna Gresh’s book And the Bride Wore White: Seven Truths to Live in Sexual Integrity . . . No Matter Your Past as a way of saying thank you for touching others with the love of Christ. You’ll also receive member-exclusive benefits. To make your pledge, or for more information, click here or call 1-800-A-FAMILY (232-6459).