Three Ways to Change Your Child’s Negative Attitude

Has your child’s attitude soured recently?

According to our counselors here at Focus, a common motivation for a child’s negativity is simply to get attention.  If you suspect this is your child’s goal, there are a few ways to teach him or her not to complain.

1. Don’t reward his negative behavior

When he starts to grumble, tell him you’re sorry he feels that way.  Then go about your business.

2. Reinforce a positive outlook

If your child shows the slightest enthusiasm, give him a smile, praise him, and let him know how much you appreciate his upbeat attitude.

3. Dig Deeper

If attention doesn’t seem to be driving your child’s mood swings, you’ll need to start asking questions.  It could be he’s experiencing the normal ups and downs of childhood.  Or he may be learning his negative attitude from friends or an older sibling.

There could also be a significant life change influencing him, such as stress in the family or trouble at school.  If none of these issues seems relevant, you may need the insight of a professional to see if depression is playing a role.

To speak with one of our counselors please call us at 1-800-232-6459.

Topics: Family and Home Tags: discipline, kids, parenting March 19, 2013 by Jim Daly with Paul Batura