I remember a few years ago when my family and I were about to hit the road for a vacation. The night before we were to leave, I double-checked our van to make sure it was road worthy. Everything looked ready to go … until I started the engine, and an indicator light came on. I tried to troubleshoot the issue, but there were no obvious problems. The worst part was I had to tell my family that we couldn’t leave for vacation until we got the van to a mechanic.
That’s usually how we respond with our cars, isn’t it. An indicator light goes on, and we get our car to the shop right away. Or at the very least, we talk to a friend or a family member to see if they know what the problem might be.
But for some reason, when warning lights go off in our marriage, we keep driving. We don’t ask questions or troubleshoot the issue. We just keep pushing forward and hope everything will work out.
Mechanics help us because they’ve seen the same engine troubles over and over, and they know how to fix them. It’s the same with counselors and relationship problems. They’ve likely seen marriage struggles like yours over and over again in other couples, and they know how to help.
If your marriage is hurting, don’t go on year after year. Reach out for help. Figure out what that indicator light is all about and resolve the problem.
Give one of our counselors here at Focus on the Family a call. The number is 1-800-A-FAMILY (232-6459).
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– Hi, I’d love some advice for my marriage.
I’m a pastor and I’m struggling in my marriage. My wife and I have been married for 17yrs.
I know the scriptures tell us that as husbands we are to love our wives as Christ loved the church.
How do I love my wife when I’m frustrated at her for not taking care of herself? After child number 3, 5 yrs ago she has not really bothered to exercise to lose that weight from the baby.
As a man I do want a wife that takes care of herself that she stays attractive.
Everytime I bring it up and I try to do it tactfully but it always brings tension into our relationship.
Anyway what would be your suggestion?