Changing Your Mindset in Marriage

According to the National Science Foundation, people think an average of 12,000 to 60,000 thoughts per day.

Eighty percent of those thoughts are negative.

And 90% of those thoughts are repetitive.

That’s why author Ted Lowe – the founder and director of MarriedPeople.org, an organization dedicated to strengthening marriages – says one of the best things you can do for your marriage is learn how to change your mind.

Embracing a positive mindset boosts confidence, wards off depression and anxiety, and helps manage stress. Likewise, thinking more positively about your spouse can change your marriage.

On our Focus on the Family Broadcast “Changing Your Mindset in Marriage,” we want to help you better understand how shifting your thoughts toward your spouse can create a healthier, more loving marriage.

What do you think about yourself? What is my identity in Christ?
What do you think about your spouse? Focus on the positive things you love about your spouse.
What do you think about your spouse’s emotions? How can you walk with your spouse through their struggles without trying to fix things?
What do you think about your response? When something your spouse does triggers you, how can you pause and think through your response instead of immediately reacting?
What do you think is the purpose of marriage? How can you reflect the love of Christ to your spouse and to the world?

To create a more loving and healthy marriage, listen to my full conversation with Ted Lowe on your local radio station, online, on Spotify, Apple Podcasts, via Google Podcasts, or take us with you on our free phone app.

While you’re here, I’d like to extend an invitation for you to become a special partner with us through our monthly “Friends of Focus on the Family” program. When you do, I’ll send you a copy of Ted Lowe’s book Us in Mind: How Changing Your Thoughts Can Change Your Marriage as a way of saying thank you for touching others with the love of Christ. You’ll also receive member-exclusive benefits. To make your pledge, or for more information, click here or call 1-800-A-FAMILY (232-6459).

And when you help Focus on the Family today with a gift, your donation will be doubled for twice the impact in helping others through this ministry. Our thanks to generous donors who’ve made that possible. (For more information, click here.)