A lot of things in your home are probably fake. And that’s okay. Just don’t let your relationships fall into that category.
Home construction technology has come a long way. In the early 1900s, wood floors made from real trees were standard to home construction. These days, everything from flooring to furniture to back decks are made from composites that only look like real wood. And the fakery doesn’t stop there. We’re surrounded by veneers, synthetics, and man-made stone. Even our kitchen cabinets are filled with all kinds of artificial ingredients.
We love fake stuff. It’s easier to maintain than the real thing. It requires less commitment and investment from us. Relationships work the same way. Rather than investing ourselves in authentic intimacy we often seek out a cheap imitation: An emotional or physical affair. Drugs, alcohol, or pornography. Even a hobby can become more important than the people around us. They all mimic the goodness of connection without the risk.
The one thing in your home you can’t afford to be fake is your relationships. We’re wired for human connection and intimacy. We need them to thrive in marriage, in friendships, and as parents. Genuine intimacy can be tough – and scary – because it requires vulnerability, openness, and transparency. But real relationship fills our souls in ways a cheap substitute never will.