Spiritual Intimacy

Good marriages are built on connection points. Money. Sex. Communication. And this one, which often gets overlooked: spiritual intimacy.

As the label suggests, spiritual intimacy is when a couple is unified in their beliefs about God and spirituality. Couples who aren’t unified run into trouble. Like Maria and John. They didn’t talk much about their spiritual beliefs when they were dating. After they got married, they were caught off guard when the challenges of life put their deepest values to the test.

That’s the role of spiritual intimacy. Your view of God shapes your heart and soul. Likewise, spiritual intimacy shapes the heart and soul of your relationship. Unity in this area enables you to trust each other and grow ever deeper in your union together.

I’m sure that’s a pretty lofty goal some days when you’re busy with kids, work, and stuff to get done around the house, so let me offer a couple of suggestions:

Number one, find ways to connect with each other while you’re on the move. It’s not very romantic, but life is lived fast. Take advantage of technology.

And number two, make time to sit with each other and have meaningful conversation – even if it’s not until late in the evening. Take a few minutes, look each other in the eye, and connect.

Above all, remember: at its core, spiritual intimacy isn’t about what you do together. It’s about who you are together.