Usually when someone asks, “Do you know who I am?” it’s an arrogant celebrity who’s had a run-in with authorities. But when that question comes from the heart of a loving mother or father, it can draw the parent and their child closer together.
The next time a conflict erupts between you and your child, ask them the question, “Do you know who I am?” You’ll probably get a confused look the first time you ask it, but it’s a good way to break through the tension and speak words that will strengthen your relationship.
Think of the long-term impact on your child if you answered your own question with something like this: “Let me tell you who I am. I’m a parent who cares deeply for you. I’m committed to teaching you the most important values in life. And I will never, ever stop loving you, no matter what. That’s who I am.”
Your child may not fully appreciate your comments in that moment. But I promise you that the bedrock of a child’s life is knowing that their parents love them no matter how many blunders they make.
Just remember: children aren’t good at reading between the lines. Your hard work to put food on the table probably won’t feel like love to them. You have to tell them.
So, speak words of love and let your children know that your love for them is part of who you are.