A common mistake in marriage is to marry who you hope your spouse will become instead of who they already are.
When a couple is dating, they tend to overlook each other’s bad habits. They get so caught up in the euphoria of the relationship that they ignore how they feel about their mate’s poor behavior. Or they minimize the problem thinking, “Once we get married things will change.” That’s a dangerous game to play.
It’s not unusual for conflict to erupt between a new husband and wife over behaviors that were present all throughout the dating season. That’s why before you get married decide whether or not you can be content with your spouse even if he or she never changes a thing. After all, there are no guarantees that your future spouse will change at all or in the ways that you hope.
Marry your spouse for who they are, not for who they’ll become.