When Jean and I first started dating, I was willing to inconvenience myself to show her my interest. I lived in San Diego, and she lived in Orange County. Despite the 90 miles that separated us, I’d often take dinner to her while she was at work.
Fast forward to the early years of our marriage, and I couldn’t be bothered to run an errand for her down the street. Something had changed. I was easily distracted.
We do that, don’t we? Once we’re married, we stop pursuing each other the way we did when we were dating. It’s human nature. It’s also why we “fall out of love.” We stop listening to each other and serving one another. It’s as if we think saying, “I love you,” one time should last forever.
The truth is love has a shelf life. It has to be renewed every single day – not once a month or once a year. We can’t bank on that big vacation we took last year or that romantic gesture we made last month. We want to actively show our love to each other every day.
If your marriage isn’t what it used to be, fall back in love by treating your spouse with the same dedication as when you were first dating. Give attention, listen, and make your spouse a priority once again.
Restore the passion you once had when your relationship was new and your feelings of love will grow.