My wife and I often discuss our relationship in terms of a theme. It could be “forgiveness,” or “grace,” or maybe “patience.” Then we try to weave that theme into every part of our marriage. Not only will we try to be more patient, for example, but we’ll make patience a part of our conversation with one another for that season of life.
Sometimes all it takes to infuse a marriage with more happiness is a few small changes. Read a book or watch a movie you can discuss afterward. Have a common goal, like planning a date night or saving for that dream vacation. Find simple ways to keep your interest in each other alive.
And consider the acronym H.A.P.P.Y. That’s an easy-to-remember guide author Arlene Pellicane uses to help couples develop greater happiness:
- H stands for hopeful. You find happiness when you place your hope in God, not your marriage or your circumstances.
- A is for adaptability. When circumstances don’t go their way, happy couples stay calm and seek a solution to the problem.
- P is for purposeful. Couples are happiest when they know their purpose. They have goals and a sense of direction.
- The other P stands for positive. You don’t have to be ecstatic and bounce around like Tigger. But you can express a grateful attitude.
- And Y refers to yielding to God and allowing Him to have His way in your relationship.
Arlene is a guest on our Focus on the Family Broadcast “Finding Contentment and Happiness as a Wife” to share in practical terms how to work her concept of H.A.P.P.Y. into your everyday life.
I think you’ll find our conversation helpful. And by the end, I believe you’ll have a good grasp of how to create a deeper happiness in your marriage that’s enduring and joyful.
You may also be interested in Arlene Pellicane’s book, 31 Days to Becoming a Happy Wife. We’d love to offer it to you for a gift of any amount. Visit our website or give us a call at 1-800-A-FAMILY (232-6459). If you can’t afford it, we’ll find a way to get it to you.