Fire can cook you a juicy steak. Or it can burn your house to the ground. The difference lies in how well you harness the power of fire.
It’s the same with a strong will. There is a lot of good that comes from having what LeRoy and Kimberly Wagner describe as a “fierce” personality. But a strong-will gone wild can also wreak havoc.
If a woman isn’t in control of her strength, she can emasculate her husband. Kimberly’s strong will once held LeRoy back. She was asserting herself, sharing her ideas for how things should be done. She didn’t realize that her aggressiveness was switching her husband’s off switch.
And LeRoy didn’t realize that he was sanctifying passivity as “peace-making” – a victim mentality with the veneer of nobility. He didn’t believe that Christians should argue or escalate a disagreement.
As a result, Kimberly and LeRoy felt trapped in a loveless marriage … until God turned it around by teaching them that “fierce” doesn’t have to mean “obnoxious,” “loud,” or “rude.” A fierce woman can be strong and beautiful. She can be confident and successful in her own right while encouraging her husband to become all that God created him to be.
LeRoy and Kimberly Wagner are with us on our Focus on the Family Broadcast “Loving and Leading Your Strong Woman” to share their story and to offer insight and hope to struggling couples.
I’ve repeated it often: Christian marriages are on display. Divorce rates are too high. Our goal here at Focus is to reduce the number of divorces and to empower couples to have a marriage that thrives.
I’d like to extend an invitation for you to become a special partner with us through our monthly “Friends of Focus on the Family” program. When you do, I’ll send you a copy of LeRoy and Kimberly’s book, Men Who Love Fierce Women: The Power of Servant Leadership in Your Marriage as a way of saying thank you for touching others with the love of Christ. You’ll also receive member-exclusive benefits. To make your pledge, or for more information, visit our website or call 1-800-A-FAMILY (232-6459).
Before I close, I want to mention Focus on the Family’s See Life 2021. Focus is combining the convenience of an online experience with the power of an in-person live event. This engaging pro-life initiative offering powerful testimonies from women and men whose lives have been impacted by abortion and practical information about the pro-life movement for families premiered across Focus on the Family’s websites and social media channels on Friday, July 16th. This Saturday, August 28th, See Life 2021 will culminate with a LIVE celebration of life at the American Airlines Arena in Dallas-Fort Worth. We’d love to see you there! For details, visit FocusontheFamily.com/seelife.