Not much can exploit a couple’s differences like Hollywood. So, when Kirk and Chelsea Cameron married in 1991, they knew they were attempting to build a life together in a place notorious for tearing marriages down.
They spent the first several months on the lookout for outside dangers to their relationship. But a conflict one night in their kitchen taught them that the culture surrounding them wasn’t the most significant influence on whether or not their marriage would be successful.
Chelsea was putting their wedding crystal into a cabinet. What happened next depends on who’s telling the story.
According to Kirk, he heard the glass shatter and feared that she’d hurt herself. So, he said to her with concern, “Honey, you’ve got to be more careful.”
Chelsea says his tone was more like, “Honey! You’ve got to be more careful!” She was so upset that she’d been scolded like a child that she picked up a second piece of their wedding crystal, held it over the sink and – while staring Kirk in the eye – let it shatter into the sink below.
On this point they agree: It was at that moment that they both thought, “Who have I married?” They also agreed that to move forward they needed to be more aware of their differences and to learn how to address them in healthy ways. Trying to change each other never works. I am the only person I can control.
Kirk and Chelsea are sharing about their journey together on our Focus on the Family Broadcast “Making Your Marriage a High Priority.” Listen on your local radio station, online, on Apple Podcasts, Google Podcasts, or on our free phone app.
Recorded at a Focus on the Family marriage event a few years ago, Kirk and Chelsea share how they discovered that the answer to a strong marriage wasn’t moving farther away from Hollywood. It was moving closer to each other and to their relationship with God.
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