Moving Your Marriage from "Me" to "We" -- 15 Minutes at a Time

The secret to winning in a team sport is no secret at all. Teammates have to share a common goal and know how to work together to achieve it. When you wear the same uniform, it’s not about “me,” it’s about “we.”

That commitment to unity is what makes a marriage work, too. But working together as a team isn’t always easy. Just ask Joshua and Christi. They sometimes miss the goal of teamwork in their marriage, too.

And that’s saying something.

Joshua Straub (Ph.D.) and Christi Straub (M.A., M.B.A.) are experienced counselors and cofounders of The Conextion Group, a company designed to empower marriages and families. And, yet, it wasn’t that long ago that Christi felt like she was “hanging on to the bottom rung of the ladder.”

Joshua came home one day a few months after his and Christi’s first child was born. He was all smiles as he told Christi about the fun and exciting projects he was working on. But instead of engaging him in conversation, Christi started to cry.

She asked Joshua, “Why don’t you ever ask about my heart?”

They hadn’t been working together as a team to better their relationship, and their marriage had slid. To get back on track, it would take both of them, working together.

Fortunately, their experience in helping other couples to improve their marriages gave them a head start in improving their own. They couldn’t reconnect overnight, but over time they could turn things around in just 10 to 15 minutes a day.

At the end of every day, they set aside at least 10 to 15 minutes to focus exclusively on each other.

Not work.

Not the kids.

Each other.

Ten to 15 minutes a day for a deeper, more enriching marriage? Sound too good to be true?

It won’t be if you join us for our conversation with Joshua and Christi Straub. They were with us yesterday on our broadcast “Working Together as a Team in Your Marriage” to talk about ways couples can create a deeper connection without it feeling legalistic or unnatural.

You can hear the program on your online or on our free phone app. They’ll offer practical advice that’ll help you and your spouse take a journey together from “me” to “we.”