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Overcoming Rejection to Live in God’s Love

Self-rejection is dangerous.

Author Henri Nouwen once said, “The greatest trap in life is not success, popularity, or power, but self-rejection. Success, popularity, and power can indeed present a great temptation, but their seductive quality often comes from … self-rejection.”

Self-rejection usually begins as a lie communicated to us by others. Over time that message weaves itself into our lives and infects every relationship we’re in, including our relationship with God.

I’m sure you remember the moment when certain lies took root in your life. One of the deepest wounds I suffered in childhood came when I was seven. My mom and dad were divorced by then, but my dad had promised me a new baseball mitt for my birthday. When the big day arrived, I was so excited I ran out to the curb every fifteen minutes, waiting for him to turn onto our street.

He never showed.

Rejection pierced my heart that day. What else could I conclude as a seven-year-old except that I wasn’t worth enough for my dad to remember me on my birthday?

Women know that kind of pain, too. Many will connect with the rejection Lysa TerKeurst felt as an eight-year-old when her mom bought her a new dress for Easter – a gift the family finances rarely allowed.

She put on the dress and walked into the den where her dad was sitting in his recliner watching television. Lysa stood beside his chair and began to twirl. She wanted to be noticed. She wanted her father to tell her she was beautiful, to tell her that he loved her. He never even looked her way.

Rejection cuts us to our core. Lies always do.

But so does the truth.

The end of the quote from Henri Nouwen I posted above says this: “Self-rejection is the greatest enemy of the spiritual life because it contradicts the sacred voice that calls us the ‘Beloved.’” God wants you to look past who the lie says you are to the truth of who He says you are.

Valuable.

Wanted.

Loved.

On our Focus on the Family Broadcast “Overcoming Rejection to Live in God’s Love,” Lysa TerKeurst shares openly about her wounds and how those vulnerabilities impacted her relationships with God and everyone around her. I think you’ll resonate with her struggle and benefit from the solutions she offers. “God’s love isn’t based on you,” Lysa says. “It’s placed on you.”

Join us for our conversation on your local radio station, online, on Apple Podcasts, via Google Podcasts, or on our free phone app.

Lysa’s book Uninvited: Living Loved When You Feel Less Than, Left Out, and Lonely is available for a gift of any amount. For more information, visit our website or give us a call at 1-800-A-FAMILY (232-6459). If you can’t afford it, we’ll find a way to get it to you.

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Topics: Family and Home Tags: faith August 17, 2021 by Jim Daly with Paul Batura

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Jim-Daly Jim Daly is a husband, father and President of Focus on the Family and host of its National Radio Hall of Fame broadcast. His blog, Daly Focus, is full of timely commentary and wisdom designed to help you navigate and understand today’s culture. His latest book is Marriage Done Right.

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