Is It Possible to Have an Argument-Free Marriage?

Is it possible to enjoy an argument-free marriage? Fawn Weaver, our guest on yesterday’s radio program, says that you can.

Now, before you dismiss her belief in marital bliss too quickly, I encourage you to give her a listen. She’ll tell you plainly that you won’t build an argument-free marriage by striving for peace at all costs, by avoiding serious conversations, or by sweeping important issues under the rug.

She says the key to eliminating arguing is effective marriage communication that gets to the truth of a matter and that genuinely resolves conflict.

On its face, that may sound like an obvious statement, but every day here at Focus on the Family, we hear from couples who don’t understand how to communicate well. Without clear communication, couples will struggle to create a marriage that’s meaningful and fulfilling. Hopes and dreams get muddied behind hidden agendas and unresolved feelings.

Think about it. Most arguments are about simple things, like the garbage not being taken out or clothes left in the middle of the floor. But over time those kinds of “simple” things can take down a marriage. When small issues don’t get resolved, they lock arms with other small issues until they become big issues and leave the whole marriage teetering on the edge of destruction.

It doesn’t have to be that way. We want to equip you to de-escalate your conflict in healthy ways.

If you missed our conversation yesterday with Fawn, you can still hear “Reducing Conflict in Your Marriage” online, or on our free phone app. Fawn is an author, speaker, and businesswoman. She founded the Happy Wives Club, a community of more than one million women in 110 countries who connect online. Our talk yesterday was based on her book The Argument-Free Marriage available in our online bookstore.

Before I close, I want you to know that if the conflict in your marriage is more severe than what this program addresses, we have resources available for you, too. Please give our counseling line here at Focus on the Family a call at 1-800-A-FAMILY (232-6459). I think you’ll be glad you did.