I tried this little exercise once and found it revealing. Maybe you’d find it helpful as well.
It works like this:
- Write down everything you do in a typical week. Among other things, your list might include working at your job, enjoying a hobby, or tinkering with projects around the house.
- Next, place a check mark by the items you do out of obligation, and a heart by the activities you do from a sense of passion.
Chances are you’ll discover the majority of your weekly activities are defined by duty, not passion.
In some ways, that’s to be expected, of course. As adults, we perform a variety of daily tasks whether we want to or not. Some things simply have to get done. But, so often the responsibilities we bear overshadow our deeper passions. And I think that’s where the problem begins. Duty and obligation are to the soul what bread and water are to the body – they allow us to survive physically, but not to thrive.
And so it goes with marriage. We marry for love, romance, and dreams, but the practical demands of life often overtake us. Before long, intimacy is replaced by busyness, and the passion we once knew is lost to the duty of jobs and laundry and the paying of bills.
The good news? Passion can be restored to your marriage. How? Well, that’s exactly the question we’ll answer in our two-day broadcast (yesterday and today), “Pursuing Passion in Marriage” with our guests, psychologist Dr. Juli Slattery and author Linda Dillow.
Does your marriage need greater obligation … or greater passion?