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How to Positively Influence Your Husband

Is it possible to change your husband?

Well, yes and no.

Researcher John Gottman says that around 60 percent of the dynamics in a marriage will never change. When you marry somebody, you’re marrying them essentially as they are. A person who’s perpetually late may never care if they’re on time. A neat-freak will never feel comfortable with clutter.

Author Gary Thomas says that still leaves 40 percent for a relationship to grow, and for spouses to learn to approach their marriage in different ways.

Topics: Family and Home Tags: broadcast, faith, husband, marriage, relationships October 4, 2018 by Jim Daly

Restoring Your Marriage After Infidelity

“He walked in, and I knew something was horribly wrong. I thought someone had died. I didn’t know it was our marriage.”

That comment from Mona Shriver about the moment she learned her husband Gary was committing adultery, reflects a sentiment felt by almost a third of couples. One or both partners admits to involvement in extramarital affairs, and life as they know it dies.

Gary and Mona Shriver are here with us from California to talk about the emotional devastation they went through as a result of an affair.

Topics: Family and Home Tags: broadcast, husband, marriage, wife August 21, 2018 by Jim Daly

What to Do When Your Fairy Tale Marriage Fades

King Artaxerxes commissioned Nehemiah to rebuild the walls of Jerusalem. Nehemiah and his men set to work with trowels in one hand and swords in the other (4:17) defending against enemies on all sides.

In many ways, married couples face similar opposition. They’re building their homes with jobs, hard work, and children in one hand and the sword of the Word of God in the other, defending their families against a culture that’s increasingly hostile to them.

Topics: Family and Home Tags: husband, intimacy, marriage, wife August 10, 2018 by Jim Daly

Does It Matter If a Wife Earns More Than Her Husband?

According to a recent report from the United States Census Bureau, most people believe it’s “socially desirable” for the husband to earn more than his wife.

In fact, in the event that a wife does earn more than her husband, researchers discovered that couples tend to downplay or under report the financial difference.

Why?

Obviously, there’s a lot of history, tradition and even controversy surrounding this topic. For instance, the issue of pay equity is hotly debated and often comes up in the midst of political campaigns.

Topics: Family and Home Tags: family, finances, husband, marriage, wife August 1, 2018 by Jim Daly

Guest Blog: Why My First Year of Marriage Was Both Easy and Hard

By: Ashley Durand

Everyone said marriage would be hard.

But our first year of marriage wasn’t hard in predictable ways.

Sure, there were little adjustments here and there, tiny conflicts like agreeing on how much to budget for groceries or what time to go to bed. But we had a lot of fun together, laughed constantly, and loved each other more every day. We led small group and kids club at church, and felt God’s hand of blessing.

Topics: Family and Home Tags: family, husband, marriage, wife June 27, 2018 by Jim Daly

Navigating the Common Challenges of Marriage

Well-known author and popular guest Dr. Gary Chapman says that if you really want the marriage you’ve always dreamed of, you have to be daring.

It takes courage to ask, “Honey, how can I be a better husband/wife to you? How can I make your life easier?” Those are daring questions because your spouse will give you an answer, and he or she will expect you to respond.

Look at that scenario from a different perspective, however, and you’ll see it as a chance to minister to your spouse’s heart with the love of Christ.

Topics: Family and Home Tags: broadcast, husband, marriage, relationships, wife June 26, 2018 by Jim Daly

What’s the Deal with God, Marriage, and Our Happiness?

Did God design marriage to make us happy?

Before I answer that, let’s define our terms.

On one end of the spectrum is happiness that’s rooted in pleasure-seeking. Happiness of this sort isn’t necessarily bad, but it does have a shelf-life. It’s like eating ice cream – the dessert is tasty, but the pleasure doesn’t last very long.

On the other end of the spectrum is happiness rooted in meaningful activity, purpose, and deeply-held values that endure.

Topics: Family and Home Tags: husband, marriage, wife June 21, 2018 by Jim Daly

Rescuing Your Marriage from the Ashes

Jesus could have judged the woman caught in adultery (John 8:3-11). She was guilty, after all. The crowd knew it. She knew it, too. And according to the strict law of Moses, she deserved death by stoning.

Rocks in hand, the men dragged the woman through the streets, and asked Jesus for her final verdict. Instead of condemning her, Jesus forgave her.

That story from the book of John is helpful for couples whose marriages have been assaulted by the betrayal of adultery.

Topics: Family and Home Tags: broadcast, divorce, family, husband, marriage June 12, 2018 by Jim Daly

Don’t Go to Bed Angry – Stay Up and Fight

Ding, ding, ding! Put your gloves on for round 1!

It’s healthy to disagree. Why? Because nobody is 100% correct 100% of the time. Disagreement improves ideas, charts a new course or corrects an old one, and allows people to see their faults and to grow from them. The trick is to engage in conflict in productive ways.

That’s particularly true for married couples.

With us on our radio program to offer practical guidance for strengthening your marriage through disagreeing are Ron and Deb DeArmond, authors of the book Don’t Go to Bed Angry: Stay Up and Fight.

Topics: Family and Home Tags: husband, marriage, wife June 4, 2018 by Jim Daly

What to Do When You and Your Spouse Are Different

When Jean and I entered premarital counseling, we were goo-goo-eyed and knew that we were meant for each other. We enjoyed most of the same things and were alike in almost every way.

When we finished our last session a week later, that had all changed. We were both thinking, “Wow, we are nothing alike,” and we were wondering, “Are we going to be okay?”

At some point, every couple begins to recognize their differences. And something strange happens when they do: The whole idea of “two becoming one” gets turned into, “My spouse should become more like me.”

How do couples manage their differences effectively?

Topics: Family and Home Tags: broadcast, family, husband, marriage, wife May 22, 2018 by Jim Daly