Reasons to Save Your Marriage After an Affair

The problem with life moving so fast is you never see the cracks starting to form.

That’s what Bob and Audrey discovered. They met in Bible college. They were passionate about their faith and each other and wanted to change the world together. They got married, and within a few years had three kids, were active in a national ministry, and began pastoring a thriving church. They attended marriage conferences and read books together. They were highly visible and well-known in their community.

Busyness wasn’t a problem. It was a mindset. “After all,” Bob says, looking back, “if you’re going to change the world, you’ve got to be busy.” They felt that every moment was an opportunity to reach somebody in need. They were driven to always do more, to always be better, and to always be on top of things.

Busyness means more than a lot of activity. It’s the condition of the heart as well.

Bob and Audrey were going so hard in life, they never saw the cracks starting to form … or they ignored them. Neither recognized the danger their marriage was in because they were too caught up in the whirlwind of busyness they’d created for themselves. They were slowly losing touch with their children, with their marriage, and with their own hearts.

As with every serious crack that isn’t attended to, the whole structure of their marriage weakened and collapsed upon itself. Audrey had an affair and soon discovered she was pregnant.

We’ve talked with many couples on our Focus on the Family Broadcast who have suffered the heartbreak of infidelity and teetered on the brink of divorce. Each of them has provided encouragement and healing for thousands of other couples who are searching for hope. They need a reason to believe that they, too, can find a way through their heart-wrenching complications.

That’s why I am grateful to have Bob and Audrey Meisner with us in the studio because their story is one of hope. On “Overcoming the Obstacles of Infidelity,” you’ll hear about their journey through infidelity and the miraculous work that God did to bring them back together.

They’ll answer the question you may be asking yourself right now: “Why hang in there?” Bob and Audrey caution against throwing in the towel too soon. Your marriage is bigger than you. Your choices affect yourself, your spouse, your children – even your grandchildren. The path isn’t easy, but there is hope for redemption.

Tune in to our conversation with Bob and Audrey Meisner on your local radio station, online, or on our free phone app. You’ll laugh. You’ll be moved to tears. And I pray for those of you in a difficult place that you’ll find new hope for your marriage.

Before I close, I want to remind you of Hope Restored. If you’re on the brink of divorce, these marriage intensives can go a long way toward facilitating healing between you and your spouse and bringing restoration to your relationship. The number for Hope Restored is 1-866-875-2915, or visit online at nationalmarriage.com.

Drs. Bob and Audrey Meisner are the founders of Love Married Life, a ministry that helps married couples who are struggling or who want to experience a better, more fulfilling marriage. They’ve written a book called “Marriage Undercover: Thriving in a Culture of Quiet Desperation.” Look for that in our online store.