Many couples contact Focus on the Family because they feel like married roommates. Their intimacy has faded, their relationship is no longer deepening, and they’re growing apart instead of becoming one.
Drifting in marriage happens when couples stop making their relationship a priority. After the fun of dating and the splendor of the wedding celebration, other things begin to distract husbands and wives from each other.
Spouses stop talking to one another about what they’re thinking and feeling. Work, children, and busy schedules become the topics of conversation. Slowly, their wholehearted pursuit of each other fades. Romance is soon replaced by home economics, and lovers become business partners.
There’s a better way.
On our Focus on the Family Broadcast “Reconnecting with Your Spouse” we’re talking with my colleagues, Dr. Greg and Erin Smalley, who teach couples how to approach their marriage in a way that invites God into their relationship.
Greg is our vice president of Marriage and Family Formation here at Focus and, together, he and Erin do a great job leading our marriage outreach. Tune in on your local radio station, online, on Apple Podcasts, Google Podcasts, or on our free phone app.
Every couple has good seasons and not-so-good seasons. Greg and Erin share ideas for:
- Better daily communication.
- Being intentional toward your relationship.
- Creating safety within your marriage so you can rekindle your love and reignite the spark you had at the beginning of your relationship.
Greg and Erin helped develop a free Marriage Assessment we offer on our website. It’s been taken by over 800,000 people and can help you quickly determine what’s working well in your relationship as well as identify areas that could use some improvement.
I’d like to extend an invitation for you to become a special partner with us through our monthly “Friends of Focus on the Family” program. When you do, I’ll send you a copy of Dr. Greg and Erin Smalley’s book Reconnected: Moving from Roommates to Soulmates in Your Marriage as a way of saying thank you for touching others with the love of Christ. You’ll also receive member-exclusive benefits. To make your pledge, or for more information, visit our website or call 1-800-A-FAMILY (232-6459).
Martha says
-We have been together 39yrs, married 34yrs. He has been unfaithful all 39yrs. “I”have been through marriage counseling twice. The Lord has blessed me with a forgiving heart. I should have let go many yrs ago. I am worthy of being truly loved. I believe he will become the man the Lord sees one day, but I’m at a loss.