Dr. Gary Chapman says one of the most sobering questions he ever asked himself was: “What if my child turns out to be just like me?”
What if they have the same work ethic that I have?
What if they handle anger the way I do?
What if they treat their spouse the way I treat mine?
What if they have the same relationship with God that I have?
Answering those questions should remind every parent that the behavior we model is more important than the words that we speak. As I’ve reminded myself and others over the years, “Values aren’t taught as much as caught.”
Dr. Chapman is with us on our Focus on the Family Broadcast “Coaching Your Kids Through the Teen Years” to share how parents can help their child’s transition into adulthood go as smoothly as possible by modeling healthy independence.
Dr. Chapman says, “Although some facets of teen life have changed tremendously over the last few decades, the basic questions, longings, and struggles have not. Teens still seek independence and their place in the world. And they still need you, even though it may not always seem that way.”
Dr. Chapman’s book, Things I Wish I’d Known Before My Child Became a Teenager is available for a gift of any amount. It is full of stories about raising his own children, as well as wisdom and practical tools to help you build a stronger relationship with your teenager as he or she transitions from childhood to adulthood. Visit our website for more information or call 1-800-A-FAMILY (232-6459).