“The loneliest place I’ve ever been in my life is not Afghanistan but in my own bed … with my wife’s back turned to me.”
That comment from veteran Chad Robichaux resonates with a lot of military couples who endure demands on their marriages that most civilians don’t understand.
After 9/11, Chad’s special ops unit did eight tours of duty in Afghanistan. Surviving the war-torn Middle East required good training and high levels of intense, adrenaline-fueled emotion. In battle, rage was Chad’s friend. It empowered him to do a dangerous job day after day. But it also took a major toll on him. Like a lot of his military brothers, Chad left the war, but the war didn’t fully leave him.
His wife, Kathy, understood the pressure he faced as well as a military wife could, but she also felt disillusioned about her relationship with Chad. He was gone for months at a time – either on deployment or in training. When he was home, parts of the battlefield came with him.
If you’re a veteran, you likely understand Chad’s struggles. You’ve served your country, but home life has proven as complicated to navigate as the battlefield.
Or you’re a military wife who relates to Kathy, who wondered, “How can my husband be so successful in his military career, skillfully handling training exercises, deployments, and firefights, but when it comes to his own family, he can’t seem to find his way?”
Or your relationship is where Chad and Kathy’s was – hurting and in need of God’s touch.
If you’re struggling, I invite you to join me on our Focus on the Family Broadcast “How God Restored a Military Marriage.” We’re airing Chad and Kathy’s incredible story – a marriage that was caught in the crosshairs of PTSD until God led them on a journey of healing, from rock bottom back to the top.
Chad and Kathy now work with other military families through their organization, Mighty Oaks Foundation, which helps soldiers find healing for the trauma they’ve suffered in combat.
Chad’s book Fight for Us: Win Back the Marriage God Intends for You is available for a gift of any amount. For more information, visit our website or call 1-800-A-FAMILY (232-6459).