Identifying Triggers in Your Marriage

Guy and Amber Lia were convinced that their marriage was a mistake soon after the mountaintop experience of their wedding. Neither had the communication skills to work through their differences. They reacted to each other instead of responding. Their relationship spiraled, and they considered throwing in the towel.

Every dating couple imagines marriage as a string of mountaintop experiences. Life will never be perfect, but we can’t fathom romance fading. We can’t foresee our conversations not stretching into the wee hours of the night. And disagreements? What disagreements?

Once we’re married, however, our expectations usually hit speed bumps. There’s the monotony of work. Of responsibilities around the house. Of paying bills week-in and week-out. There are also lots of stressors – a job loss, the death of a loved one, financial struggles, the birth of children. Real life sets in, and the dreams we have for our marriage begin to fade.

All of which shows that for a relationship to last, it must emerge out of the intensity of passionate romance and put down deep roots that are formed through day-to-day experience.

On our Focus on the Family Broadcast “Identifying Triggers in Your Marriage,” Guy and Amber Lia share why they stayed together, what they did to address marital tension, and how they found true peace in Christ. They’ll help you cast a new vision for your marriage and learn how to temper your dreams with less fairy tale and more real life.

Amber and Guy Lia are relationship coaches and co-owners of a faith and family production company in Los Angeles. Listen to our full conversation on your local radio station, online, on Apple Podcasts, Google Podcasts, or on our free phone app. It’s one of our “Best of 2021” broadcasts.

Before I close, I’d like to extend an invitation for you to become a special partner with us through our monthly “Friends of Focus on the Family” program. When you do, I’ll send you a copy of Amber and Guy’s book Marriage Triggers: Exchanging Spouses’ Angry Reactions for Gentle Biblical Responses as a way of saying thank you for touching others with the love of Christ. You’ll also receive member-exclusive benefits. To make your pledge, or for more information, visit our website or call 1-800-A-FAMILY (232-6459).