Wives, when you were dating, it was probably easy to see the best in your husband. But at some point after you said, “I do,” did you discover yourself taking him for granted?
It happens. But you can make choices that will get your relationship moving in the right direction more quickly.
I think you’ll be inspired and encouraged toward a stronger marriage with our radio program today, “How to Have a Happier Husband,” featuring a conversation with popular guest Kathi Lipp.
Kathi recommends that wives build relationships with other women who can encourage one another toward better marriages. Women thrive when they have friends who draw out the best in them, who pray for them, and who help them strengthen their marriages, instead of tear them down. Wives need a safe place to bring their concerns, knowing their problems will get talked out and prayed out, not gossiped out.
Kathi also told me that the most effective way for wives to improve their marriage is to encourage their husbands, even in small ways. That can be by speaking words of affirmation to him, by easing his stress, or by simplifying some part of his day.
For Kathi, it was as easy as her husband’s favorite chair. Roger sometimes found clean laundry thrown on it. He didn’t mind helping, but he thought she was antagonizing him. Instead of asking for help, he was convinced Kathi was leaving him a pointed and angry message: “Fold the laundry!”
The truth was, his chair was just a convenient dropping point for her. She eliminated any future misunderstanding between them by simply making sure the laundry ended up somewhere else. Small change for Kathi. Big difference for Roger.
Is there some miscommunication you can clear up? Is there a small stress that you can take off of your husband’s plate or a chore you can outsource to free up some of his time? Can you give him ten or fifteen minutes when he gets home from work to change clothes and shake off the day before you give him the evening’s “honey-do” list?
Obviously, a happy marriage requires that husbands ease the load their wives carry, too, but Kathi’s advice today is primarily intended for women. She’ll offer practical tips and advice that can help you create a happier husband and a more fulfilling marriage.
I invite you to share your own ideas with each other. Comment below. What’s your best tip for a happy husband?