Men, we’re at war.
Most guys probably don’t think about their roles as husbands or fathers in those terms very often. That could be why so many men succumb to the dangers of pornography and adulterous affairs. They seem oblivious to how the enemy of their soul uses those temptations to ruthlessly plot their destruction.
That’s why author and speaker Dr. Steve Farrar specifically compares a man’s role in his home to point men in military conflict. Soldiers on patrol comb through opposition territory together, and one man leads the group. His job is to be on high alert for enemy personnel and to be the first line of defense for the men behind him.
As husbands and fathers, we’re walking the point. We’re leading our families through the chaos of a nation that has lost its moral compass. We’re defending them from an enemy whose desire is to alienate men from their wives until their marriage is destroyed.
In 1 Timothy 3:2, the apostle Paul writes that leaders in God’s church must be “the husband of one wife.” In the original Greek, that verse reads this way: “He must be a one-woman kind of man.”
On our Focus on the Family Broadcast “Going All Out for Your Wife,” we’re airing a message from Dr. Farrar recorded in front of 50,000 men, which outlines five ways men can be a “one-woman kind of man.”
- With your mind and with your thought life. The apostle Paul said, “Take every thought captive to obey Christ” (2 Cor. 10:5).
- With your eyes. Job said, “I have made a covenant with my eyes that I will not gaze upon a young woman and lust” (Job 31:1).
- With your lips. “Let no unwholesome word proceed from your mouth” (Eph. 4:29).
- With your hands. “Who shall ascend the hill of the LORD? And who shall stand in his holy place? He who has clean hands and a pure heart” (Psalm 24:3-4b).
- With your feet. “Flee from sexual immorality” (1 Cor. 6:18).
I love this message from Dr. Farrar, especially since it flies in the face of so much of what we hear from our culture today. Every home needs a man who stands on God’s Word by keeping his promises and following through with his commitments.
If sexual infidelity has impacted your marriage, and your relationship is in a tough spot, give one of our counselors a call at 1-800-A-FAMILY (232-6459). They are available to listen and pray with you and to provide tools to help strengthen your marriage.
If your marriage difficulties seem too challenging to overcome, and you’re on the brink of divorce, reach out to Hope Restored. These marriage intensives can go a long way toward facilitating healing between you and your spouse and bringing restoration to your relationship. The intensives take place in three locations: Branson, MO; Greenville, MI; and the WinShape Retreat Center in Rome, GA. The phone number is 1-866-875-2915. Or visit online.
We also have a full devotional series on infidelity available on the YouVersion Bible app. You’ll find almost 60 individual devotions with topics like Prevention: Protecting Your Marriage Against Infidelity; Crisis: When an Affair Is Discovered; and Recovery: Piecing Your Marriage Back Together.
We also have a devotional series on YouVersion based on the book titled Aftershock, written by Focus on the Family counselors Joann Condie and Geremy Keeton.
Dr. Steve Farrar is the founder and chairman of Men’s Leadership Ministries.