What kind of “sex-pectations” do you and your spouse have?
In the book Married Sex: A Christian Couple’s Guide to Reimagining Your Love Life, co-authors Gary Thomas and Debra Fileta define “sex-pectations” as beliefs about sex that couples have going into marriage.
Those expectations can often be unhealthy, shaped more by Hollywood than God’s Word. Aligning expectations with reality can be challenging for a couple. A great place to start is adopting a biblical perspective of sex and understanding the benefits of a healthy sex life to a couple’s relationship.
God designed sex for married couples to enjoy, but there are often physical, emotional, and spiritual limitations that hold them back. That’s why sex is both the greatest blessing that a couple can experience in marriage as well as the greatest source of struggle. Some of the most meaningful affirmation within marriage comes from a healthy sex life, while an unhealthy sex life produces some of the deepest rejection.
Your sex life can drive a wedge into your marriage. Or it can bond you together.
Gary Thomas and Debra Fileta are with us on our Focus on the Family Broadcast “Improving Your Sex Life to Improve Your Marriage” to offer godly encouragement to married couples for improving their sexual relationship.
Our conversation explores the blessing of sex within marriage; what sex does in our brains relationally, physically, and spiritually; and how sex reveals God’s goodness that He would create bodies capable of enjoying the pleasures of sex.
This program isn’t graphic, but it is a frank, godly discussion that husbands and wives can listen to together. We recommend that you direct the attention of younger listeners elsewhere or you can listen at your convenience on your local radio station, online, on Apple Podcasts, Google Podcasts, or take us with you on our free phone app.
Before I close, I’d like to extend an invitation for you to become a special partner with us through our monthly “Friends of Focus on the Family” program. When you do, I’ll send you a copy of Gary and Debra’s book Married Sex: A Christian Couple’s Guide to Reimagining Your Love Life as a way of saying thank you for touching others with the love of Christ. You’ll also receive member-exclusive benefits. To make your pledge, or for more information, visit our website or call 1-800-A-FAMILY (232-6459).
Robert Pratt says
-My fiance and I haven’t been active lately. I’m stressed to the max and I don’t feel so manly and I feel like she deserves better. She argues about it and I try to explain my feelings to her but I don’t feel like she understands me. At the moment there are a lot of other things going on that are stressing us out and I feel like it’s going to ruin us. I don’t know how to explain to her so she’ll understand and not hold it against me.