“We were doing all the right things. We knew each other’s love languages. We went on date nights. We spent time away, just the two of us. We thought we were doing all the right things and yet, infidelity became a part of our story. That’s when we realized it wasn’t a lack of big things that were robbing us of intimacy. It was all the deeper emotions under the surface that went undiscussed that pulled our hearts away from each other one centimeter at a time.”
That’s how Mark and Jill Savage describe their marriage’s slow descent into a dark abyss of infidelity and near-divorce. I say “near” because it was only through God’s grace and lot of hard work on their part that they were able to climb their way out.
They have lot of empathy, encouragement, and hope to offer couples who are at the end of their ropes. You might be in the throes of infidelity yourself or suffering through the horrific aftermath, and you don’t see any future for your marriage.
I hope to change your mind.
I’ll be talking with Jill and Mark today and tomorrow on our radio broadcast. They’ll be sharing their story and offering hope to couples who desperately need it. At one point, Mark left Jill and his kids, believing that his new relationship was going to be his cure-all. But he found out the hard way that he would be taking somebody with him, somebody who would guarantee the same miserable outcomes for his new relationship as the relationship he was so desperate to leave behind: himself.
It’s easy to blame your spouse for your heartache. But happy marriages demand two people who take ownership for the health of the relationship, not just one. Marriages only work as well as two people are selfless. The marriage bond is one of God’s best tools for shaping us into vessels that reflect His image. Couples become more selfless, humble, and capable of love the more they surrender their lives to each other.
That can take a few years. And when the road you travel together is long, there can be some difficult miles to get through. I think our program “Embracing Imperfections in Your Marriage” can help. Listen on your local radio station, online, or on our free phone app.
Mark and Jill offer excellent insight, advice, and encouragement to help couples restore and reconcile their marriages. Mark was a pastor for 20 years. Jill is the founder and former CEO of Hearts at Home, a ministry for moms.
We also have caring Christian counselors who can talk with you and give you some first steps at 1-800-AFAMILY (232-6459).
You can also call 1-866-875-2915 or click here for information about Hope Restored, a four-day intensive getaway for couples who are on the brink of divorce. Many who attend have already signed divorce papers, but they’ve come for one last shot at saving their marriage. Most couples get help and find a way through the challenges coming between them.
Jill and Mark also have a book titled No More Perfect Marriages: Experience the Freedom of Being Real Together that can be found, along with other helpful resources in our online bookstore.