Daly Focus Blog
According to Dr. Kevin Leman’s The Birth Order Book, a common but often overlooked reason many couples don’t see eye to eye is birth order. That little boy or girl that you once were, you still are.
Your birth order creates a dynamic relationship between you and your parents, and between you and your siblings. Your birth order influences how you see relationships and, therefore, your marriage.
For example, Dr. Leman says firstborns are typically:
• Reliable and conscientious.
Gabe and Rebekah Lyons have a happy, healthy marriage – but they had to fight for it. They met in college and, over three decades, raised four children – including two with Down syndrome. They pursued their relationship with intentionality and purpose, which anchored them while navigating cross-country moves, personal battles with panic disorders and depression, and the challenges balancing ministry and family life. Along the way, they learned how to deepen their intimacy and strengthen their bond.
If you’re a parent, then you’re busy. Your schedule is full from morning until night.
Which raises an important question: When life has you running, how do you make the most of your time with your children?
I’ve always tried to take advantage of the opportunities in front of me. When my boys, Trent and Troy, were young, I struck up thoughtful conversations with them every morning as I drove them to school. Our relationship has been built largely by bike rides, four-wheeling excursions, and camping trips.
The longer I’ve been married, the more I’ve realized that it’s not big things that make or break a marriage. It’s little things. Sure, problems like infidelity, addiction, or abuse can devastate a relationship and are not to be underestimated. But, in most cases, the difference between healthy and unhealthy couples is they’ve learned the secret of serving each other by performing a multitude of small, simple gestures that show affection and devotion to one another.
Today’s Supreme Court decision on women’s sports is a win for reality.
It is also a victory for the generations who labored for decades to ensure that our daughters would have the right to compete fairly in athletic events. Radical activists have threatened not only that right but the physical safety of girls and women as well.
While the ruling acknowledges that states and schools may provide separate women’s and men’s sports teams based on biological sex, it does not invalidate existing laws or prohibit legislatures in blue states from enacting new policies that are detached from biological reality.
If you’re a parent, you’re surely familiar with the word “no” – and for good reason. Children love to test the limits.
When our boys, Trent and Troy, were young, they were determined to go faster, higher, and farther. If one dessert was good, two was better. Instead of watching one movie, they’d want a double feature. If their bedtime was 9 o’clock, they’d push for 10.
Since children can’t resist climbing trees or splashing in mud puddles in their new shoes, the word “no” is a vital tool.
There’s a lot of talk these days about “toxic masculinity.” It’s a term that describes masculinity gone wrong, an image of what men are not supposed to be.
Author Brant Hansen says that many men – especially many young men – don’t know what they are supposed to be.
The culture routinely deconstructs, but we rarely construct. Men need a vision for what is distinctly and inherently good about masculinity, and we find it in God, who creates men for a purpose.
People often think financial problems are caused by a lack of money. Sometimes. But it’s usually our perceptions of money that affect how we spend and how we save.
Matt Bell, author and managing editor at Sound Mind Investing, can attest to that. In his mid-twenties, he received $60,000 from an uncle – more money than he could spend. Or so he thought. He used the money to create a job in which he travelled internationally to luxury golf courses and published a golf newsletter.
The culture has lost its way regarding sex.
That’s always been true, but it’s more and more evident every day. The devil twists words and ideas until good things become bad things, and bad things become good things – so much so that talk of purity gets distorted or, worse, weaponized.
On Focus on the Family with Jim Daly, I’m having a conversation with author Dannah Gresh about biblical truth that will bring clarity to God’s view of sex and thereby empower young women to live with sexual integrity while healing wounds caused by sexual brokenness.
First Thessalonians 5:16-18 tells us, “Rejoice always, pray without ceasing, give thanks in all circumstances; for this is the will of God in Christ Jesus for you.”
As Christians, we desire to connect with Jesus as our source of contentment and joy. But life gets in the way. We get busy raising children, tending to our marriages, or building our careers. We get distracted by technology, endless entertainment on social media, or circumstances that overwhelm us.
Jim Daly is a husband, father and President of Focus on the Family and host of its National Radio Hall of Fame broadcast. His blog, Daly Focus, is full of timely commentary and wisdom designed to help you navigate and understand today’s culture. His latest book is Marriage Done Right.
