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How to Have a Better Sex Life by Understanding Your Love Styles

Sex is the one activity that differentiates marriage from every other relationship. You can have a great conversation with a friend. You can have lunch with a co-worker. You can go on vacation with a neighbor. But if you’re following God’s design for relationships, sex is only rightly expressed through marriage.

Milan and Kay Yerkovich say that dynamic is hugely consequential when a couple can’t negotiate their sex life in healthy ways.

They say each of us identifies in some way with one of the following love styles:

Avoiders are emotionally distant and detached.Pleasers can be excessively nice and always want harmony.

Topics: Family and Home Tags: marriage, sex December 3, 2020 by Jim Daly with Paul Batura

Walmart Removes Cosmo. Could Brio Take Its Place?

In a surprise move yesterday, the retail giant Walmart announced that it will stop selling the controversial magazine Cosmopolitan at the checkout shelves in over 5,000 of its stores.

The Bentonville, Arkansas-based company will still continue to carry the magazine, but it’ll be housed in a less prominent part of the store.

Meggan Kring, a spokesperson for Walmart, said, “While this was primarily a business decision, the concerns raised were heard.”

Over the years, those concerns came from plenty of frustrated parents and organizations like Focus on the Family, but most recently from the National Center on Sexual Exploitation (NCOSE).

Topics: Current Events Tags: entertainment, events, sex March 28, 2018 by Jim Daly with Paul Batura

What Is God’s Design for Sex in Marriage?

God has given married couples a wedding present.

Sex.

The Lord designed physical intimacy to be enjoyed by both husbands and wives. First Corinthians 7 tells us that sex is rooted in mutuality. Husbands are to be sensitive to their wives’ needs, and wives are to be sensitive to their husbands’ needs. Marriage is about serving one another, not demanding your own rights.

Sadly, we live in a broken world that undermines God’s sacred designs. Secular culture portrays sex as primarily for the man.

Topics: Family and Home Tags: broadcast, husband, intimacy, marriage, relationships February 15, 2018 by Jim Daly with Paul Batura

Six Free Gifts for Valentine’s Day

Valentine’s Day marks the culmination of National Marriage Week here in the United States. Conceived as a “collaborative campaign to strengthen individual marriages, reduce the divorce rate, and build a culture that fosters strong marriages,” the effort mirrors the ongoing daily work of our ministry.

The traditions surrounding Valentine’s Day may frustrate some, but I’ve always enjoyed them. Jean has been my Valentine for three-plus decades now, and I consider her a gift.

For my fellow male readers, I’m going to assume you’ve already taken care of the cards, the flowers and chocolates.

Topics: Current Events Tags: husband, intimacy, marriage, sex, wife February 14, 2018 by Jim Daly with Paul Batura

Affair Proofing Your Marriage

Marriage is central to what we do here at Focus on the Family.

We believe that marriage is the foundation of the family. We also believe that God’s design for marriage is a relationship where both husband and wife are committed to loving and caring for one another for a lifetime.

The problem is, men and women are selfish creatures, and their selfishness comes out in all kinds of unhealthy ways. One of the most devastating aberrations is an affair.

Topics: Family and Home Tags: broadcast, husband, intimacy, marriage, sex January 30, 2018 by Jim Daly with Paul Batura

The Sexual Assault Scandals are a Consequence of the Sexual Revolution

Time Magazine unveiled its “Person of the Year” today, and its choice is at once unconventional but not at all surprising.

In a tradition dating back to 1927, the publication has historically selected a person who makes significant news during the past year. As a result, past winners have run the gamut. Recipients have included Adolph Hitler (1938), the Ayatollah Khomeini (1979), the American Soldier (2003) and the Ebola Fighters (2014). President Donald Trump won last year, an acknowledgment of his surprising electoral victory.

Topics: Current Events Tags: events, news, pop culture, relationships, sex December 6, 2017 by Jim Daly with Paul Batura

Returning to a Godly Perspective on Sex and Romance

One of the most powerful forces God created for humanity exists in the realm of love, sex, and romance. The potential for both pleasure and blessing is virtually immeasurable. So is the potential for destruction.

As a group, Millennials and younger generations don’t tend to believe that. A significant percentage see sex as a purely physical experience. That shouldn’t surprise anyone. From an evolutionary standpoint, there isn’t anything sacred about sex. If there is no God, then sex is strictly biological.

Topics: Family and Home Tags: broadcast, intimacy, relationships, sex November 7, 2017 by Jim Daly with Paul Batura

Hugh Hefner has died. How does his view of sex compare to God’s?

You may have heard that the founder of Playboy magazine, Hugh Hefner, died last night at the age of 91. I want to share with you my statement to the media on his passing:

“The death of Hugh Hefner has elicited tributes of many kinds, including that he was a pioneer who liberated the sexual frustrations of a culture. In reality, his efforts and entrepreneurial pursuits helped enslave generations of both women and men.

“Pornography corrupts what God created for enjoyment within marriage and objectifies the gift of our sexuality.

Topics: Current Events Tags: broadcast, news, sex September 28, 2017 by Jim Daly with Paul Batura

The Only Way to Break the Power of Sexual Sin

“She felt like she had given me the most precious, delicate part of who she was, and I had thrown it in the trash.”

That’s Jonathan Daugherty speaking there, and the she he’s referring to is his wife. He’d just confessed to her that he was addicted to pornography and had had multiple affairs. The revelation left her devastated and curled up in a fetal position. The shame of his behavior left Jonathan suicidal.

Fallout like that is not unique.

Topics: Family and Home Tags: broadcast, marriage, relationships, sex June 20, 2017 by Jim Daly with Paul Batura

Ten Commandments for Husbands and Wives

Whether it’s our marriage, parenting or our profession, it’s common for us to get so consumed in our own little world of trouble that we forget that every problem we face has, in some form or fashion, also been a problem for prior generations.

Nowhere is this more true than in marriage. In fact, in doing research for my book, Marriage Done Right, I reviewed plenty of old pamphlets and books that were full of marital advice.

Topics: Family and Home Tags: husband, marriage, relationships, sex, wife May 3, 2017 by Jim Daly with Paul Batura