The Empty Nest Marriage: What Will You Do When the Kids Leave?

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The empty nest years can sneak up on a marriage.

I shared my thoughts about this in a post a few weeks ago:

“Well-meaning moms and dads spend so many years completely devoted to the task of raising their children that they often forget to be husband and wife. It’s a situation that may be manageable while the kids are still at home and there’s enough work to ‘float’ the relationship along – but it can become unbearable after the kids move out.

How to Leave a Godly Legacy for Your Children

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Parents, every day you’re passing on a legacy to your children.

What are you leaving them?

Jean and I have two teenage boys at home, and we think a lot about how we can instill them with the biblical values we know will carry them through their lives.

There are countless ways moms and dads can pass their faith on to their children, a lot of them based on the family’s schedule and each member’s unique personality.

When God Gives You a Second Chance

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I’ve needed God to give me a second chance to do His will a few times in my life.

Just one example would be my high school football career. I was my team’s starting quarterback and spent long hours honing my performance and pushing myself to be at the top of my game. Several colleges had offered me scholarships and future opportunities seemed wide open for me.

But God started moving me in another direction the night my big brother came to a game.

Gary Chapman’s Practical Marriage Advice


Here in Colorado, you can tell that winter is right around the corner. The days are getting cooler, and you can feel it in your bones: that first arctic blast isn’t too far off.

The end of summer has me already longing for spring because once the cold, snow, and ice set in around here, they seem to last forever.

It’s no fun being stuck in winter.

That icy chill is even worse to be stuck in when it describes your marriage.

One Practical Way Parents Can Encourage their Kids to be Bold in their Faith


Last Friday on my blog I shared a troubling trend with you: schools banning Bible verses. Despite students having a clear Constitutional right to include Bible verses in their personal work projects, or with their friends outside of classroom time, some children are finding themselves silenced when it comes to their faith.

However, I also shared a way for students to celebrate their First Amendment rights: the Focus on the Family-sponsored and student-led “Bring Your Bible to School Day,” which will be held on Oct.

Should A Parent Attend A Child’s Every Game?


I love sports.

Athletics were always a part of my family growing up. My brothers and I built a solid foundation for life through sports. It’s where qualities like responsibility, discipline, and perseverance were expected of us. Those are skills we’ve honed through the years and carried into adulthood.


As much as I believe in encouraging kids to be active in sports, I think it’s a good idea for families to set reasonable boundaries around their schedule and involvement level.

Influencing Influencers to Influence Well

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“Politics is nothing but an expression of culture, so if politics is sick, it’s because the culture is sick.”

That astute observation was from the late Chuck Colson from a broadcast we aired a few weeks ago. President James Garfield shared a similar concern in 1876 when he said, “The people are responsible for the character of their Congress. If that body be ignorant, reckless and corrupt, it’s because the people tolerate ignorance, recklessness and corruption.”

In a government “of the people, by the people, for the people,” our leadership is ultimately a mirror reflection of the culture that elects them.

God’s Love When We’re Suffering


Tragedy is like a sucker punch to the face.

The blow comes out of nowhere, and you’re left reeling. Your view of life is blurry for days, weeks, maybe even months.

One of the worst parts of tragedy in the initial moments is the feeling of isolation that can settle in around you. The pain can be so deep, so intense, that you feel strangely detached and all alone, even if you’re surrounded by friends and family.

Why I Have a Heart for Orphans

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I have a heart for orphans. My own story is a vital piece of the puzzle why.

My folks divorced when I was 5. I lost my mom to cancer when I was 9, and my dad died not long after. I was orphaned and spent about a year in the foster-care system.

I know what it’s like to go to bed each night wondering if someone loves you.

That’s a tough place to be.

But that desperate feeling is a familiar one for an estimated 140 million orphans around the world – a number almost too overwhelming to think about.

How to Pray For Your Boys

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Are you at your wit’s end with your boys?

Maybe they’re rambunctious, messy, and loud, and they’re always falling off of their bikes, scrapping with the neighbor kids, or forgetting an instruction you’ve given them a hundred … no, a thousand times.

Solid, helpful parenting ideas can be a big help in these cases, and we have loads of that here at Focus on the Family. But nothing can take the place of one of the most overlooked parts of Christian parenting: prayer.