Jim Daly

How to Create a ‘Certain’ Marriage

Psychologist John Gottman says he can predict with 94% certainty whether a marriage will be successful.

Armed with over 20 years of research, Dr. Gottman observes a number of factors that predict the health and well-being of a marriage. He found:

Happy couples show affection toward one another.

They practice healthy conflict resolution.

They are respectful of each other’s needs and desires.

They show interest in what their spouse says – even when they share offhand comments about a sunset or a small moment from their day.

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Finding Hope for Your Desperate Marriage

You can’t change your spouse. So what do you do if your marriage is in a desperate place?

Many couples believe there are just two choices:

Stay and be miserable for the rest of your life.

Get out while you can and hope to find happiness somewhere down the line.

Dr. Gary Chapman says there’s a third option: With God’s help and with godly counsel from others, positively influence your marriage by creating possibilities for your spouse to change his or her behavior.

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Sharing God’s Light Through Art

We recorded the latest edition of Focus on the Family with Jim Daly in a different kind of studio. Instead of microphones and recording consoles, we were surrounded by more easels, paint brushes, and canvases in one place than I’ve ever seen.

The studio belongs to Morgan Weistling, who has been an artist since he was old enough to hold a crayon. He has studied under some of the most legendary illustrators and artists of the last century.

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Making Daily Choices to Love Your Spouse

Theresa had a stroke 18 years ago. She lost control over her hands. Which means for all these years she’s struggled to do simple things in life, like styling her own hair. That’s why when she goes to the beauty salon, she leaves with a smile. She feels beautiful.

The trouble is, as soon as she washes her hair it falls flat, and she can’t get it to look the way her stylist does. Which means, until her next hair appointment comes around, Theresa doesn’t smile as much.

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Clergy Appreciation

October is Clergy Appreciation Month, and Sunday, October 13 is Clergy Appreciation Day. This celebration is an opportunity to honor the approximately 50,000 ministers, priests, rabbis, and chaplains across the United States.

Most members of the clergy aren’t well-known. They don’t speak to large audiences on TV or podcasts, or minister to huge congregations. The average pastor shepherds a church of fewer than 100 people – and most have to hold down a second job to pay the bills.

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Shouting the Worth of Every Person

“Birds of a feather flock together.”

That saying means we feel most comfortable around people who look like us, talk like us, and think like us. Though natural, that tendency often costs us the opportunity to learn from and build relationships with people who hold different perspectives than we do.

Diversity is rooted in God’s character more than we often imagine. He creates human beings in His image, so every person is God’s image-bearer. Each person gives us a unique opportunity to know God more fully and to better appreciate what it means to be fully human.

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Equipping Your Child to Be on Fire for Jesus

I enjoyed watching my boys grow in their Christian faith. As they became older, it was up to them to develop their relationship with God and make it their own. But when they were young, it was Jean’s and my role as their parents to nurture their spirituality.

Parents are blessed to be influenced by youth leaders and Sunday school teachers, but, ultimately, teaching and modeling faith is up to Mom and Dad (as well as Grandma, Grandpa and other close family members).

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Actions Speak Louder Than Words

My most vivid childhood memories are rooted in experiences, not words. I remember what happened far more than I remember what people said. I’m sure that’s true for most of us. You probably don’t remember being told to avoid hot stoves, but I’ll bet you remember the first time you touched one.

That’s why, when I was raising my boys, I knew experiences would impart wisdom and strengthen their character more effectively than lectures would. Plenty of situations on the playground and at school taught them to be kind and to stand for what’s right.

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Understanding the Importance of Voting

I don’t believe I’m overstating things when I say that the upcoming election is the most important in recent memory. There is a lot at stake!

In America, we’re blessed with a government that, Abraham Lincoln said, is “of the people, by the people, and, for the people.” But our system of government is only effective when citizens participate in the election process and vote. Christians especially have a responsibility to vote for candidates who uphold biblical values.

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Two Things to Improve Your Marriage

I’ve got a simple idea for improving your marriage, but it takes some courage: Ask your spouse to share two things you do in your marriage that he or she likes … and two things you can do to make your marriage better.

The first part – hearing what you do well – is easy. We all love pats on the back and being told the ways we shine. It’s the second part – what you can do better – that’ll take some courage to hear.