Opposites attract. With a little communication, those differences usually can be navigated. But sometimes it’s differences in communication itself that are the problem.

Authors Bill and Pam Farrel offer a simple word picture to illustrate the distinction between how men and women communicate: Men are like waffles; women are like spaghetti.

Ladies are the spaghetti. The noodles run in random directions, and they all seem to touch each other. That’s a visual for the way women easily jump from one subject to another within a conversation.

Topics: Family and Home Tags: marriage April 18, 2023 by Jim Daly with Paul Batura

What does intimacy look like in a thriving marriage?

Pronounce the word “intimacy” a little differently, and the answer becomes clearer. Instead of saying, “intimacy,” say, “Into me, see.”

The idea is that healthy couples “see into” each other’s hearts. They discover each other’s likes and dislikes, put each other’s needs above their own, and seek to better understand each other’s perspectives.

To create intimacy that will sustain your marriage across a lifetime, weave the following three virtues through every part of your relationship:

Always be honest with each other.

Topics: Family and Home Tags: marriage April 10, 2023 by Jim Daly with Paul Batura

“…to love and to cherish, till death do us part.”

Couples often recite vows like this at their wedding. But no sooner do they walk the gauntlet of flying rice afterward than the word “cherish” begins to fade from their vocabulary. They don’t mean for it to happen, but the months and years go by, they settle into the daily routine of life, and they wake one day with a marriage that’s missing something deeper and more satisfying.

Topics: Family and Home Tags: marriage March 27, 2023 by Jim Daly with Paul Batura

Sexual intimacy in marriage can be complicated.

Many couples’ physical relationships are centered around one central question: What makes me feel good? Even couples who avoid self-centeredness often feel disappointed with their partner’s shortcomings. There are also physical changes, medical issues, and emotional challenges that interrupt our lives from time to time. As we get older, the realm of sex changes drastically within a marriage relationship.

Which can leave couples with a lot of questions.

We’ve got answers.

Topics: Family and Home Tags: marriage March 16, 2023 by Jim Daly with Paul Batura

Even when life is dark, one moment can change everything.

That was beautifully illustrated in a social media post watched over 30 million times in just a few days. The video captures the moment that a marriage was rescued.

In the video, Caitlin and her soon-to-be ex-husband are celebrating their three-year-old son’s birthday. The little boy’s eyes light up when he sees his cake, covered with candles. Then, Caitlin’s husband looks into her eyes … and his eyes lit up, with love for her.

Topics: Family and Home Tags: marriage March 6, 2023 by Jim Daly with Paul Batura

Satan wants to destroy your marriage.

That’s no scare tactic. Satan hates marriage because a loving, committed couple who use their gifts to serve each other and their community is one of the most powerful forces on Earth. Strong, healthy, god-fearing marriages produce strong, healthy, god-fearing families and communities.

To corrupt marriages, Satan attacks couples through lies that promote unhealthy fairy-tale expectations and destructive relationship myths.

Dr. Greg Smalley and Dr. Bob Paul have seen these lies at work in many couples’ marriages.

Topics: Family and Home Tags: marriage March 6, 2023 by Jim Daly with Paul Batura

Dr. Robertson and Muriel McQuilkin were thriving in life together. And then Muriel began forgetting things. Thus, began a harrowing – yet, triumphant – story of a love that endured the ravages of Alzheimer’s disease.

Dr. McQuilkin served for 22 years as President of Columbia International University before leaving that position to care for his wife, Muriel, for over a decade. Theirs is an amazing story of loyalty and devotion.

On our Focus on the Family Broadcast “Love in the Midst of Alzheimer’s,” we’re featuring the McQuilkin’s honest and compelling story of dedication in the midst of tragic illness that will inspire married couples to keep the vows they made to love “for better or for worse” and fill caregivers with encouragement and hope.

Topics: Family and Home Tags: marriage March 3, 2023 by Jim Daly with Paul Batura

Every married couple has disagreements. Some of those arguments happen because of misunderstandings about what our spouse is really thinking.

Take Dan and Barb for example. Barb asked her husband a couple of weeks ago to fix the kitchen sink, but Dan hasn’t gotten around to it, yet. Barb is tired of waiting, so she reminds him that the sink is still broken. And – boom! – misunderstanding and conflict.

Barb sees the situation her way: Her husband has had plenty of time to get the job done, but he hasn’t taken the initiative to do the work.

Topics: Family and Home Tags: marriage March 1, 2023 by Jim Daly with Paul Batura

Do you have a fierce marriage?

Authors Ryan and Selena Frederick describe a “fierce marriage” as radically pursuing each other in light of Christ’s relentless love.

They experienced the truth of that idea firsthand two years into their marriage. After taking jobs in Switzerland, Ryan developed a persistent cough he dismissed as the flu. Doctors gave him antibiotics and painkillers and told him to return for a checkup in a few days. His health soon took a terrible turn for the worst, and he was diagnosed with a congenital defect called endocarditis, a life-threatening inflammation of the inner lining of his heart chambers.

Topics: Family and Home Tags: marriage February 22, 2023 by Jim Daly with Paul Batura